Hello All, I hope everyone is doing well or on their way to wellness. I have had several interesting “Conversations” over the last 10 days. It is amazing what you can learn about someone through simple “Conversation”. Sometimes we can learn about other’s who are experiencing pain, loss, grief and/or who may have a special need which we can assist with. Sometimes, people just need to have someone to listen too them. All that is required, is a little time and a friendly ear. One of the interesting pieces which seem to come out of these type of “Conversations” are that my problems seem to be a lot smaller than I originally thought. In addition to problem sizes, there are times when listening to someone else simply cheers me up! Or I say, “I needed to hear that today”! Does that ever happen to you? They have words or a story which is uplifting. You know, those stories/experiences which give you goose bumps. Conversation(s) are sooo important for our well being and the well being of others. Do you give your time and ear to listen to those who need it or ask for it? Has someone tried to talk to you but you were busy? Or you said “I will talk to you later”? Be person who can provide that landing spot for someone who just needs to talk. You never know when you can make a difference in someone else’s life. God bless you all! If you need assistance please give us a call! Thank you, Mark
Question…have any of you ever lost someone special in your life? Has it happened more than once? How did you walk through that season(s)? Did you have support, or did you try to do it on your own? I’ll tell you, I’ve sure experienced a lot of Loss over the last couple of years. It is never easy and it does not seem to get easier. I was just speaking with a friend today and realized we are witnessing a lot more loss due to our ages. It kind of sucks! There seems to be no answers or explanations at times why it happens…it just does.
What I do know, is that Loss effects us all. Loss at times can have a ripple effect in our lives and the lives of others. I have also discovered I need support and the best way for me to get what I need is by asking for help or reaching out to some of my support circle. I am aware if I try to process all on my own that I usually have some residue left over. I try to keep God at the center, lean on Him for help & strength, it’s all I know. God always seems to help. Take care out there and God bless you all! If you need any help please reach out 253-735-0665. Mark
Hello All, I hope everyone is headed down the right path. If not get back on it! Dust yourself off and begin again. It is OK! Just because we fall off our path does not mean we are bad people, it does not mean we’re not going to be successful, it simply means we made the wrong choice at the time. There is no shame in starting over. Millions upon Millions do it all the time. Whether, some start their careers over, relationships, locations, schooling and so many more things are pathways of new beginnings. Some times we have to fall several times and get back up to be successful. If we never fail then how do we ever appreciate when we succeed!? Failing is part of life and part of learning. God is always there to grab you by the hand, the same way He has done for me. God bless you all!! Now get up and walk forward! If you need any help please do not hesitate to reach out 253-735-0665.
I hope everyone is doing well or at least moving in the right direction. I can remember a variety of people giving me advice. I still remember to this day, working outside in my grandfathers front yard on Xmas break from college. We were discussing a situation which I was dealing with at the time in my young life, which did not turn out so well. I distinctly remember my grandfather saying, ” if you would just listen to me, I could save you from some of those experiences”!! In ALL my (young) wisdom and worldly knowledge my response was “sometimes grandpa you have learn from your experience’s”. Grandpa replied in ALL his wisdom ” that’s just it, if you would just listen I could save you from some of those BAD EXPERIANCES”!!
Wow was He right!! The wise old OWL(AL)!! I look back every now & then and see how many times I refused to listen or follow GOOD ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS. Most of the times, when I tried things my way, it usually ended up poorly for me. I have so many people who care about me today who I can turn to for ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS. Today I value that feedback, even when it goes against my thinking or my way of doing things. Have you ever had times when you ignored someone’s GOOD ADVICE? Have you ever refused to listen and do things your way? What was the outcome? Did it work out well? Or do look back and say, “I should have listened”? Just know it’s never too late to heed ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS and CHANGE BOTH DIRECTION AND OUTCOMES!! GOD BLESS YOU ALL. Mark
Wanted to touch on UPLIFITING OTHERS! Now, I think we may at some times take those for granite who not only support us, but uplift and pray for us as well. There are numerous people in my life who continue to support me and uplift me. I am wondering do those people, agencies know who appreciative we are towards them? Have we told those who matter lately we appreciate them? You know how it feels, to have someone tell you they appreciate you and are grateful for you…it feels darn good!! There are a lot of folks, family, friends, and agencies that I owe a lot too especially gratitude! I am so appreciative for all the support I have been given over the years and throughout my life. Take the time just to say Uplift those who impact our lives, past, present and future! God Bless you all, Mark
I have recently experienced a situation where I wanted SO bad to respond (React) in a different way, however, I paused and took time to decompress and waited. I have looked back when I just rushed into my response/reaction with all the emotional energy I was feeling and it just didn’t work out the way I was hoping it would? Have you ever been in that situation where you reacted right away at an heighten emotional state? Did you have to go back and apologize? Did you get into trouble over it? Did you loose a relationship or bruise a relationship over the reaction? Regarding my experience, I was truly almost there, however, I took almost a week to circle back. During that time, I spoke with others, prayed, reflected and talked it through with those I both respect and confide in. I think this is the best path and strategy for me, when I “Take Time” to work things through and not react right away. The outcomes seem to go a lot better. Don’t get me wrong, my old nature wants to take over when those moments pop up (thankfully not often). May God bless you path and please feel free to contact us if you need assistance. Mark
Checking in today and wanted to talk briefly about EXPECTATIONS and how they impact us and others. Have you ever gotten frustrated with someone who let you down, didn’t show up on time, didn’t follow through, or simply did not do what you thought they would do? I was told once to lower my EXPECTATIONS of others. By doing so, I began to notice that I did not get as angry or disappointed as I was before. Sometimes, I believe we EXPECT certain things from others or we EXPECT others to react, respond in a certain way. Well those “EXPECTATIONS” can lead us to difficulty within our own lives. What has helped me, was me not placing MY EXPECTATIONS on others thus leading to less disappointments and frustrations. Maybe give it a try? Lower or eliminate your EXPECTATIONS of someone and see how you feel afterwards. God bless you all, Mark.
I feel like it has been awhile…maybe it has. I wanted to touch base and speak about “FOLLOW THROUGH” as it relates to our paths of change and sobriety. What I’ve learned is that “FOLLOW THROUGH” is very very important!! Think about it…how many times did we miss appointments, deadlines, commitments, birthdays, holidays, special occasions, work, interviews, etc. The list can go on and on. We always had/have an excuse. Which may have seemed justified or rationalized, however, the simple fact is that we lacked “FOLLOW THROUGH”. Most of it had to do with our disease and being sick. Now that we are getting healthy and walking a different path, “FOLLOW THROUGH” has to be important enough for us to live out day in day out. We will accomplish little, if we do not “FOLLOW THROUGH”. Sometimes, we may put too many things on our plate and simply become overwhelemed…do you ever feel like this? If this is the case maybe the solution is to take a couple things off our plate and slow down?? Maybe, it’s time to reach out and ask for some suggestions/assistance? Wherever you are on your path….even if you have temporarily stumbled off the path, you can always reach out for help. Simply by doing so, you are FOLLOWING THROUGH!! God bless you all!! Mark
I have noticed over the years that around the Holiday time, things get tough for some of us? Have you ever struggled with the Holidays or a particular Holiday? There are certain reasons we struggle during these times. A lot of the struggle seems to be emotionally. How do you handle the Holidays? Where do you go? Do you spend them alone, with family, friends or maybe you do not celebrate them for one reason or another? I can assure you that there are healthy ways to cope with the feeling of the Holiday season. Some folks go to meetings, some folks reach out to others, some folks go to church some of us talk with counselors for extra and additional support. For me, it is good to be around others who need to talk/share about their Holiday experience’s and feelings. If we keep it bottled up, then typically we won’t use our healthy coping skills to navigate the emotions which pop up for us. Holidays won’t always be this way, they won’t always be hard, it is just the moment we are dealing with which is difficult, however, with support and our willingness we can overcome these moments and move forward. God helps me with almost everything…my hope for you is, you’ll find what you need in order to move forward through this moment. Do not be afraid to reach out. May God bless you and your path forward. Mark
Have you ever felt like you were confined to a “BOX”? Almost like you were trapped and could not get out? Felt like you were stuck? Everywhere was a dead end? I know a “BOX can seem like there’s no way out. However, just remember a “BOX” is just that, a cardboard “BOX”, and one can break out if needed. Cardboard is reinforced paper and can be cut, torn, punched through or just simply pushed open. We do not have to stay trapped in the “BOX”. There is so much more on the outside for us to see and do. People to connect with, places to visit, family to see and help for us who need it. If we still feel like we are trapped in that “BOX” then we can reach out to someone, there is always someone who can help us open the “BOX”. Our lives are meant for so much more. You are worth it, and you can do this!!! If you need assistance please do not hesitate to contact us @ 253-735-0665. God Bless you all, Mark.