TAKING ADVICE/SUGESTIONS

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HELLO ALL!!

I hope everyone is doing well or at least moving in the right direction. I can remember a variety of people giving me advice.  I still remember to this day, working outside in my grandfathers front yard on Xmas break from college.  We were discussing a situation which I was dealing with at the time in my young life, which did not turn out so well.  I distinctly remember my grandfather saying, ” if you would just listen to me, I could save you from some of those experiences”!! In ALL my (young) wisdom and worldly knowledge my response was “sometimes grandpa you have learn from your experience’s”.  Grandpa replied in ALL his wisdom ” that’s just it, if you would just listen I could save you from some of those BAD EXPERIANCES”!!

Wow was He right!! The wise old OWL(AL)!! I look back every now & then and see how many times I refused to listen or follow GOOD ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS.  Most of the times, when I tried things my way, it usually ended up poorly for me. I have so many people who care about me today who I can turn to for ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS.  Today I value that feedback, even when it goes against my thinking or my way of doing things.  Have you ever had times when you ignored someone’s GOOD ADVICE? Have you ever refused to listen and do things your way? What was the outcome?  Did it work out well? Or do look back and say, “I should have listened”? Just know it’s never too late to heed ADVICE/SUGGESTIONS and CHANGE BOTH DIRECTION AND OUTCOMES!! GOD BLESS YOU ALL.  Mark

 

UPLIFTING OTHERS

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HELLO ALL, 

Wanted to touch on UPLIFITING OTHERS! Now, I think we may at some times take those for granite who not only support us, but uplift and pray for us as well.  There are numerous people in my life who continue to support me and uplift me.  I am wondering do those people, agencies know who appreciative we are towards them?  Have we told those who matter lately we appreciate them? You know how it feels, to have someone tell you they appreciate you and are grateful for you…it feels darn good!! There are a lot of folks, family, friends, and agencies that I owe a lot too especially gratitude!  I am so appreciative for all the support I have been given over the years and throughout my life.  Take the time just to say Uplift those who impact our lives, past, present and future! God Bless you all, Mark

TAKING TIME

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I have recently experienced a situation where I wanted SO bad to respond (React) in a different way, however, I paused and took time to decompress and waited.  I have looked back when I just rushed into my response/reaction with all the emotional energy I was feeling and it just didn’t work out the way I was hoping it would?  Have you ever been in that situation where you reacted right away at an heighten emotional state? Did you have to go back and apologize?  Did you get into trouble over it?  Did you loose a relationship or bruise a relationship over the reaction?  Regarding my experience, I was truly almost there, however, I took almost a week to circle back.  During that time, I spoke with others, prayed, reflected and talked it through with those I both respect and confide in. I think this is the best path and strategy for me, when I “Take Time” to work things through and not react right away.  The outcomes seem to go a lot better.  Don’t get me wrong, my old nature wants to take over when those moments pop up (thankfully not often). May God bless you path and please feel free to contact us if you need assistance.  Mark

EXPECTATIONS

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HELLO ALL, 

Checking in today and wanted to talk briefly about EXPECTATIONS and how they impact us and others.  Have you ever gotten frustrated with someone who let you down, didn’t show up on time, didn’t follow through, or simply did not do what you thought they would do?  I was told once to lower my EXPECTATIONS of others.  By doing so, I began to notice that I did not get as angry or disappointed as I was before.  Sometimes, I believe we EXPECT certain things from others or we EXPECT others to react, respond in a certain way.  Well those “EXPECTATIONS” can lead us to difficulty within our own lives.  What has helped me, was me not placing MY EXPECTATIONS on others thus leading to less disappointments and frustrations. Maybe give it a try?  Lower or eliminate your EXPECTATIONS of someone and see how you feel afterwards.  God bless you all, Mark. 

FOLLOW THROUGH

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“HELLO ALL, 

I feel like it has been awhile…maybe it has.  I wanted to touch base and speak about “FOLLOW THROUGH” as it relates to our paths of change and sobriety. What I’ve learned is that “FOLLOW THROUGH” is very very important!!  Think about it…how many times did we miss appointments, deadlines, commitments, birthdays, holidays, special occasions, work, interviews, etc.  The list can go on and on. We always had/have an excuse. Which may have seemed justified or rationalized, however, the simple fact is that we lacked “FOLLOW THROUGH”.  Most of it had to do with our disease and being sick.  Now that we are getting healthy and walking a different path, “FOLLOW THROUGH” has to be important enough for us to live out day in day out.  We will accomplish little, if we do not “FOLLOW THROUGH”.  Sometimes, we may put too many things on our plate and simply become overwhelemed…do you ever feel like this?  If this is the case maybe the solution is to take a couple things off our plate and slow down?? Maybe, it’s time to reach out and ask for some suggestions/assistance?  Wherever you are on your path….even if you have temporarily stumbled off the path, you can always reach out for help.  Simply by doing so, you are FOLLOWING THROUGH!!  God bless you all!! Mark  

HOLIDAYS

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Hello All, 

I have noticed over the years that around the Holiday time, things get tough for some of us?  Have you ever struggled with the Holidays or a particular Holiday?  There are certain reasons we struggle during these times. A lot of the struggle seems to be emotionally.  How do you handle the Holidays?  Where do you go? Do you spend them alone, with family, friends or maybe you do not celebrate them for one reason or another? I can assure you that there are healthy ways to cope with the feeling of the Holiday season.  Some folks go to meetings, some folks reach out to others, some folks go to church some of us talk with counselors for extra and additional support.  For me, it is good to be around others who need to talk/share about their Holiday experience’s and feelings.  If we keep it bottled up, then typically we won’t use our healthy coping skills to navigate the emotions which pop up for us.  Holidays won’t always be this way, they won’t always be hard, it is just the moment we are dealing with which is difficult, however, with support and our willingness we can overcome these moments and move forward. God helps me with almost everything…my hope for you is, you’ll find what you need in order to move forward through this moment.  Do not be afraid to reach out.  May God bless you and your path forward. Mark

IN A BOX

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Have you ever felt like you were confined to a “BOX”?  Almost like you were trapped and could not get out? Felt like you were stuck?  Everywhere was a dead end?  I know a “BOX can seem like there’s no way out. However, just remember a “BOX” is just that, a cardboard “BOX”, and one can break out if needed. Cardboard is reinforced paper and can be cut, torn, punched through or just simply pushed open.  We do not have to stay trapped in the “BOX”.  There is so much more on the outside for us to see and do.  People to connect with, places to visit, family to see and help for us who need it.  If we still feel like we are trapped in that “BOX” then we can reach out to someone, there is always someone who can help us open the “BOX”.  Our lives are meant for so much more.  You are worth it, and you can do this!!! If you need assistance please do not hesitate to contact us @ 253-735-0665.  God Bless you all, Mark.  

ALONE

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HELLO ALL, 

Have you ever felt like you are all ALONE?  Maybe you feel like that right now?  Perhaps, everywhere you turn feels like a dead-end? Maybe those who love and care about you seem far away or unreachable?  Maybe it even feels like those who say they love you, aren’t there for you, and/or they don’t really care any longer?  Well, all of those are valid feelings and emotions.  However, speaking from personal experience, those who loved me even in my darkest times (when I felt all ALONE) really did love me still.  They loved me sooo much that all they wanted was for me to get some help.  See, they tried to help me many times before, but looking back, I was not ready to receive there help.  It truly broke their hearts to watch me go through my struggles ALONE, when all I had to do was allow myself to get some help.  Maybe I should have said, “be ready for help and REALLY want it”!  I needed to be ready to do some real work on myself along with being able to handle the discomfort of change. 

The blessing in all this is, that when I submitted myself to the process, all those people who loved my and cared about me were right there for me again and willing to slowly walk back into my life.  What I found was change and I was NOT ALONE, there are a lot of other people just like me walking the same path. Finally, God has never left my side.  He is ALWAYS with me no matter what!  Remember, you are not alone, help is just a phone call away…253-735-0665. 

GOD BLESS YOU ALL! Mark 

FITNESS

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The subject today is FITNESS…how is your FITNESS level?  Do you feel fit!!?  Well, you probably wonder what I mean by FITNESS?  I believe there are different areas of FITNESS.  Although “Physical FITNESS” is probably one of the first forms which come to mind.  However, I am referring to Spiritual FITNESS.  I believe our Spiritual FITNESS is just as important if not more than any other form of FITNESS.  Does it not say in the Big Book…”It’s a spiritual condition”?  I don’t know about you, but if my spirit isn’t right, then I’m not right. I have to do things regularly to keep my Spiritual FITNESS up just as one would for their Physical FITNESS. As I work on my spiritual condition among other things, I find my mind improves, thoughts improve, responses improve, more grace, and forgiveness seems to go along with my spiritual FITNESS.  Worry and anxiety fade and are replaced by assurance and faith.  Our fight is against this dark force of Spiritual War Fare…this thing called ADDICITION. Keep up the fight!! This is what works for me.  God bless you all, Mark. 

OPEN MINDED

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Hello All, 

Have you ever thought that your way was the best way?  Have you ever received some feedback or pushback and decided to do things your way instead of really considering the advice being given?  I can remember several times in my life certain people saying “just listen to me”, “I’m trying to help you”.  I remember one distinct conversation I was having with my Grandpa many years ago, when he had given me some advice long before and I didn’t listen.  I still remember my exact words in reply, “some times you have to learn from your experiences Grandpa”(in all my infinite wisdom lol).  I have never forgotten his reply to my philosophical stance…he said, “well, if you’d listen to me I can save you from some of those bad experience’s you are having due to not listening”.  His name was Al (like the wise old Owl…aka AL).  This is how I see him today.  Along with how naive and immature I really was back then.  I have learned to run my big decisions (and some little ones too) by others and God.  I wait and look forward to the pushback and feedback so that I may make more informed decision today.  Some times my thinking isn’t always the best….how’s yours?  If you need assistance please feel free to call us @ 253-735-0665.  God bless you all! Mark